Last year, I met with several women who struggle to reach their GOALS and change their MINDSET.
They’ve told me:
- I fear failure and/or success
- I don’t have anyone to hold me accountable
- I lack support
- I’m afraid of what other people will say and think about me
- I struggle with comparing myself to others
- I allow other people’s limiting beliefs to define me
- I don’t believe I can have the things I want
CAN YOU RELATE ?
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
You may not know, but there was a time in my life where I didn’t feel like I could have the things that I wanted. After doing some deep soul searching, I realized that If I wanted my life to change then I would need to change my thoughts and the way I spoke over my life.
Today, I’m going to share 6 ways you can get your MIND right in 2020.
1.Change Who You Surround Yourself With
Those toxic relationships you keep holding on to is preventing you from growing. There’s this quote floating around the internet that reads you cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life. Take a minute to think about the people you hang around and talk to are they adding value to your life or is their negative energy-draining you? Our environment has a huge impact on our growth. If you want to grow, then you need to make changes to your circle.
2.Choose To Forgive Yourself and Others
2019 taught me that forgiveness isn’t something you do for the person who did you wrong, it’s something you do for you. I had family do and say some hurtful things that could’ve kept me emotionally and mentally stuck and prevented me from achieving my goals. But through prayer, my fiance, family, close friends, and therapy I’ve allowed myself to forgive them. Do I believe they deserve my forgiveness? Heck No! But I refuse to allow someone to take up space in my mind when chances are they moved on in their life.
3.Stop Being A People Pleaser
Are you always there for everyone else that when it’s time for you to put yourself first you feel guilty? Or maybe someone called you selfish because you finally told them NO? Well, I’m here to let you know that you’re not selfish for putting yourself FIRST. Remember YOU matter, your goals matter and your future self is depending on you to show up.
4.Recite Positive Affirmations
I told you earlier that your thoughts and words matter. If you’re ready to speak and think positive.
Check out The Affirmation For Life Card Deck.
Taking the time to appreciate everything around you can help you start to think more positive. I recommend carving out a few minutes in your day to appreciate everything that you have. The 5- Minute Gratitude Journal is a great tool to use. But for now, grab a blank sheet of paper and write 3 things that you’re grateful for every day.
6.Create A Bucket List
Do you know what makes you HAPPY ? When I ask my clients this question more often than not they struggle to come respond because they haven’t thought about it in a long time, if ever.
Create a list of 30-40 activities and ideas to get you doing things you don’t normally do. Be intentional about doing something on your list at least once a month OR more.
Let’s Talk !
How will you shift your mindset this year?